How We Work Together.
A practical overview of our mentoring process.
What you can expect.
Before We Begin.
Is this process right for you?
If that's where you are today, you have my full commitment.
When we may not be the right fit.
In that case, I'm not the right mentor for you.
We Work In a Safe Space.
Before anything else, this is the foundation of our work together.
From the moment we choose to begin this journey, we consciously create a safe space between us.
This is a place where you never have to pretend, or defend yourself.
You can simply be yourself.
No matter what.
This is a place where you never have to pretend, or defend yourself.
You can simply be yourself.
No matter what.
Our First Meeting.
Our first meeting is mainly about finding the right place to begin.
Every person arrives with a different story.
And every journey begins in a different place.
When we first meet, we explore together what is seeking your attention beneath the surface.
As we speak, I'm listening far beyond your words.
I'm paying attention to the patterns that emerge between your words...
to your emotions,
perspectives,
what you repeat,
what you avoid,
and the subtle messages that are often expressed without words.
Most people leave the first meeting seeing something they hadn't seen before, or feeling what they hadn't felt before.
Sometimes we uncover a deeply held belief that has quietly influenced your life for years.
Sometimes we discover the real cause behind a recurring struggle.
Sometimes it's simply a completely new way of looking at a situation.
Quite often, the very first meeting already changes the way people see and understand themselves.
How We Work Together.
The meetings.
Every meeting is unique.
There's no fixed structure.
We always begin by connecting what unfolded since our previous meeting with where you are today.
Yet within that continuity, every meeting still feels like a first encounter.
New observations, perspectives, and experiences.
Together, we work with whatever naturally emerges.
My approach to mentoring is to open doors.
You choose whether to step through them or not.
I'll never judge your choices.
Meeting Length.
Each meeting unit is one hour.
Longer sessions are possible whenever we feel they'll better serve the process.
When working in-person, we will determine the structure of our 8 hours days according to your needs and abilities.
Meeting Frequency.
You set the pace of your own journey.
Based on years of experience, I usually recommend meeting once a week.
You're always free to choose a different rhythm.
The longer the time between meetings, the more important it becomes to remain engaged with the work between sessions.
I generally don't recommend intervals longer than three weeks, as the continuity of the process begins to fade.
There may also be times when you'll benefit from meeting more frequently.
How Many Sessions Do You Need?
This is one of the most common questions I get.
The honest answer is: I don't know.
It's obviously highly individual.
Every person arrives with a different life story, different challenges, and a different pace of growth.
Some people process change very quickly.
Others need more time for things to settle.
I'll never decide for you when the journey should end.
And I'll never encourage you to continue simply for the sake of continuing.
Ultimately, you are responsible for every aspect of your journey.
I'm here to guide, support, and make suggestions whenever they serve you.
In Between Sessions.
Most meetings naturally continue beyond the session itself.
Sometimes it's a practical action.
Just as often, it's practicing a new way of seeing, choosing, responding, or becoming aware of recurring patterns.
The real process happens between sessions.
Every experience between meetings becomes something we can explore together.
Instead of speaking in theories, we work with
The more you engage with the process, the more we can accomplish together.
My Ongoing Support.
I'm available to you when in need, between the sessions.
If you encounter a difficulty, feel stuck, or simply need to share something important, you don't have to wait until our next meeting.
This ongoing support often makes a meaningful difference in the journey.
What is Expected From You?
Simply be yourself. Your real self.
Come
You don't need to prepare anything.
You don't need to have it all figured out.
Just be.
What happens when things become challenging?
There may be times when this process feels challenging.
You won't go through those moments alone.
Feeling challenged doesn't mean you're moving in the wrong direction.
Quite often, it means the opposite.
When something becomes challenging, it's often a sign that we've touched something important.
Those moments often mark the beginning of meaningful change.
What initially feels uncomfortable often becomes the doorway to profound transformation.
One of my favorite reminders comes from Rabbi Nahman of Breslov:
Remember, you'll never be faced with an obstacle beyond your power to surmount.
Rabbi Nahman of Breslov
Meeting Online or In Person.
When circumstances allow, I generally prefer working on-site.
Why?
Because nothing replaces sharing the same physical space.
It allows us to work with the fullest range of possibilities, respond to subtle nuances, and create a deeply focused environment.
Online mentoring, however, is remarkably effective.
It offers flexibility, saves travel time, and allows us to continue working together regardless of where in the world you are.
Online meetings take place over Zoom.
While some experiential work naturally benefits from being physically together, meaningful transformation is absolutely possible online.
Many of my mentoring relationships have developed almost entirely this way.
Whenever circumstances allow, my favorite approach is combining the two.
Periodic in-person meetings, supported by regular online sessions in between.
Continuing Your Journey.
At some point, you may feel you've reached a place where you no longer need regular mentoring.
That decision will always be yours alone.
That doesn't mark the end of your journey.
It simply marks the beginning of walking it more independently.
Many people choose to return from time to time—when life presents a new challenge, an important decision, or simply when they feel another conversation would serve them well.
My greatest wish for you
is independence
and true freedom.