Life Transformation: Benjamin (Bini) Elnakad's Experience with Dr. Ben Shomer

Ben,

When I embarked on the mutual journey with you I was emotionally blocked from my environment. I didn't believe in my ability to be who I really am while feeling worthy and complete with myself and my loved ones.

Today, having gone through the path, I am much more daring, successful and choosing to be who and what I am - and believing in it. Nowadays I conduct myself with far more personal responsibility. I also have much more faith in others' conduct with personal responsibility. It is extremely meaningful for me. It has transformed my life for the better and helps me walk through this world as a free individual.

Years ago, I mistakenly hurt another person. Despite everything I tried and did, I could not handle the consequences. For many years, I desired and sought ways to reach the possibility of asking for forgiveness, but had no courage for it. When I reached you, we examined that subject in-depth. You helped me understand the deeper roots of what happened. I managed to release the self-blame and my being stuck. I deeply understood how useless self-blame and guilt are and the importance of not getting stuck in past events.

After some time, with intensive effort and much courage, I succeeded in attending to the person I hurt, ask for forgiveness and talk. We still have some work, but the transformation is quite evident. I walk the paths of life more self-assured, happier and proud. I believe in myself much more.

Before I came to you I was a lonely wolf. I was a very kind and loving person, but I also presented many thorns to the outside world. Today I posses a higher ability to simply be, without the need to draw an answer or respond. I possess greater serenity and pleasantness.

I never believed, wanted or considered to choose the concept of seeking a relationship. Only 8 months of mutual process work have gone by and I am married! It was not a pre-defined purpose of the process, but eventually, it is also connected with everything we went through.

It is allowed, possible and wonderful for me to love and be loved.